A lot of us who struggle with addiction do things we are ashamed of, and we feel shame and guilt, and sometimes don’t really believe that we deserve to be treated well. We do, and you should never consider getting help for your disease at a facility that doesn’t treat you with respect, that doesn’t treat your concerns as valid and that doesn’t care for your recovery more than it cares for your admissions check.
Addiction is a disease, and medically recognized as such by all major medical organizations, and although we may start down the road to dependency with willful consumption, once addicted we truly do lose control over our actions and even our thoughts. Although we are legally responsible for what we do, once addicted our moral compass cannot often withstand the pulls to drug or alcohol use regardless of what may stand in our way. No one who experiments with a bit of cocaine at a party ever imagines themselves stealing from loved ones, no one who enjoyed beers under the bleachers in high school ever imagined the pain of an alcoholic DUI and no one who enjoyed prescribed pain pills a little too much would have believed the lies they would tell to get the drugs they needed.
Our actions while addicted are not who we are, and we deserve the same quality of treatment as anyone sick with a disease deserves. Respect does not disallow tough and confrontational treatments if that’s what’s required, but only if done for a reason, and not simply because they can be done, or because we don’t deserve better. Respect starts even before we enter into treatment, and when calling around and trying to choose a facility for your care, you deserve to be treated well, given the information you need to make an educated decision, and never as a burden or a bother.
If you are treated as such before you even enter into residence, you cannot expect better once under their care, and in fact you should expect worse. You have value, and your potential exists just below the surface of addiction and despair, and however low you may have sunk, you are only a month away from your former self. Make sure you receive care at a facility that’s going to treat you well; it’s the least you deserve.