Everyone knows that only the addict can make the choice to get sober, and to stay sober…but what does this mean?
Clinical statistics show that your motivation to enter a rehab or treatment program is not nearly as important as your successful completion of this program, and your continuing involvement in aftercare programming. If you can convince anyone that needs help to get it, they should go…no matter what they say at the time!
The statement, "I don’t have a problem and I’ll go just to prove it!" may change to "Thank you very much for caring enough about me to get me the help I needed." by the end of treatment. A common refrain of therapy and treatment is that ultimately only the addict can make the choice, and change their behaviors to get and stay sober…and this is true, but the key word in this last phrase is ULTIMATELY!
If you have a sister, son, father…whoever, that you know has a dependency issue, that you are concerned about, and that you care enough about to encourage that person to get the treatment that they need, then no matter what the terms, if they agree to get help, they should go! It doesn’t matter if they maintain that they don’t have a problem, or that they’re just going to treatment to appease you, to show you that they really don’t have a problem; if they agree to go, it’s a great first step towards recovery.
During the haze of abuse, too many of us were not, or are not, thinking clearly; and dependency can cause subconscious changes in thought processing. A period of sobriety, reflection and therapy can be a very powerful thing and many people that enter rehab swearing that they don’t need to be there, exit singing a different tune; and change their behaviors and lifestyle as a result.
Many addicts enter rehab having spent a long period away from real sobriety, and have even forgotten what sobriety feels like. Sometimes just getting the metabolites out of the system, and getting enough time to get the head together is enough to change a way of thinking, and to get an addict to see the forest for the trees. If it doesn’t work, no one is worse off then they were before, but if it does, it’s a great thing. Getting someone the help they need can be very difficult and emotionally draining, but it shows how much you care for that person.